There seems to be a correlation between the Lefts’ progressive war on traditional family values and what can only be described as classless 3rd wave feminist. For the past few decades the rate of children being born out of wedlock has skyrocketed. It would almost seem to go hand in hand with the rise of 3rd wave feminism. The new feminism is not the feminism of our mothers and grandmothers. It is a strange weird perversion of the female identity and their natural biological roles. The feminism of our fore-mothers was a necessary thing, yes. Those were great movements that sought for real equality between the sexes. From it we received equal footing with the right to vote to the Equal Pay Act. They paved the way for real equality between men and women. I like to say that men and women are equally unequal. And what that means is that we have been given opportunity equality in that government policies and laws in general do not impede one gender or the other for opportunities. With that being said we cannot overlook the underlying biological inequalities that the two genders have respectively. Men cannot host an infant within themselves for nine months and then not only birth them but also feed them naturally produced sustenance. That is a biological inequality, in this instance women are superior to men naturally. On the other hand, men are built in such a way that carrying the burdens of the family should come more naturally. Physically and mentally, men are more adapt to be the providers and protectors of the family. It is actually a beautiful balance between the two and when done properly, men and women are both equally important while providing different roles. It is the concept of yin and yang illustrated in heterosexual relationships.
There is nothing wrong accepting these biological inequalities and still being equally important in the relationship. My husband can dead lift my body weight, and I struggle to open heavy doors from time to time. It is simply a biological understanding between us. He doesn’t think any less of me for not being able to lift the same amount, and quite frankly I appreciate the fact that he is willing to do the heavy lifting for the family. He doesn’t do it to oppress me, he does it because he wants to contribute to the quality and value of our family unit and that happens to be the way that he can do it. He holds open the door, again not to oppress me, but instead as an act of respect, reverence and appreciation for everything that I do for our family. He pulls out chairs, and carries the groceries in among other things; but here’s the real underlying motive, he does those things not only to show appreciation and respect for me, but to ingrain into our children that women are worthy of such respect and that is the standard that we will hold them to. We want our daughter to grow knowing within herself that she deserves to be treated appropriately, that she is worthy of such respect. On the other hand, its guide for our son to have respect and manners.
This is one of the many reasons having the father in the household is so important. It’s about being equally unequal. Now, swinging back to the rise of 3rd wave feminism and how its devaluing society. As stated prior, this new feminism is not the same as the previous movements. It’s no longer about equality between the sexes, it’s now about misandry and domination of masculinity. So as a society we are having more children out of wedlock which actually leads to higher levels of poverty, and 3rd wave feminism is actually pushing more and more to remove the father/ man of the house, out of the house and into the streets. They do not want equality with their male counterparts, they want to devalue masculinity so that they can dominate over it. Look at the beta males that follow new feminist around, I personally would not put any hope or faith in those particular type of men to protect and care for my progeny. My husband is an alpha male, and that doesn’t mean he is going around beating me and the kids down with oppression, holding us back from making any choices or decisions. It means that he accepts his role as the protector and provider for our family, and takes a firm stance to lead our family in the hopes that our children will not want for anything, and that whatever their goals and dreams may be they the opportunity to achieve them. If our daughter wants to be rocket scientist, he wants her to be able to achieve that and he works for the family to make sure she can. On the other hand if she wants to be a stay at home wife and mom, he wants her to be able to have that life; because she has grown up seeing what a man with a family is supposed to do and will be able to find a happy, healthy relationship already knowing what it looks like. That’s what real equality looks like, a woman can choose whatever lifestyle she wants and have no hindrance in accomplishing it. Feminists do not like this concept, hammering against the traditional family values. This creates more uneducated women, higher poverty rates and a growing cycle of more children being born out of wedlock ever increasing the cycle. Ultimately they hate men, label everything as the oppressive patriarchy and in reality they are only hurting future generations of women. I absolutely believe in equal rights between men and women but that’s not what the new feminism is about and I cannot support the devaluing of our male counterparts. Traditional family values are a vital part of achieving prosperity and equality, and we should stop looking to destroy them if we truly want our daughters to be successful. That’s not to say society doesn’t need beta males, of course we do. The point is valuing alpha males and not making them or traditional family values, the enemy.
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